Most who battle alcohol addiction, or any addiction for that matter, leave a trail of destruction in their wake. A long list of friends and loved one’s who have been hurt is almost guaranteed.
Trust will be lost, and relationships will be ripped to pieces. Believe me, I know all to well how it can eat away at you.
You may feel like you will never be able to make up for the pain you have caused and that those who you love will never forgive you.
It’s so easy to let the destruction your addiction has caused be a reason to carry on abusing. It can be one of the biggest stumbling blocks in recovery.
The addictive part of your mind will be telling you to drink because “the damage is already done”.
People who are struggling often tell me that their relationships can’t be fixed.
But there is a way. The most obvious way. Your friends and loved one’s just want to see you get better. By getting sober and staying sober, those relationships will be salvageable.
There was a time when I thought things would never be good again between me and my family. I had caused so much sadness. I had lost so much trust. And I had burnt every bridge.
But time heals and people forgive. And there is no better way of accelerating that process than by getting sober and making up for the mistakes you have made.
It’s my amazing little sisters 27th birthday today. I made her teenage years and early 20’s hell. All the focus was on me and my issues when she must have needed support too.
Charlie didn’t have a normal 21st birthday. Her party was overshadowed by me. I had been admitted to intensive care because I’d relapsed just four months after being diagnosed with liver disease.
It wasn’t just me who lost some of the best years of my life, she did too.
Yet she has forgiven me for all of that and grown into a beautiful, kind, and wonderful woman who I am incredibly proud of.
So don’t let the mistakes you have made in the past get in the way of your future. You can make up for all of them once you are sober.
For my family, me getting sober was enough to wash away the pain I had caused.
A person’s sobriety doesn’t just affect them, it affects everyone in their life.
Thanks for reading and say safe,