Nothing is beyond repair

Most who battle alcohol addiction, or any addiction for that matter, leave a trail of destruction in their wake. A long list of friends and loved one’s who have been hurt is almost guaranteed.

Trust will be lost, and relationships will be ripped to pieces. Believe me, I know all to well how it can eat away at you.

You may feel like you will never be able to make up for the pain you have caused and that those who you love will never forgive you.

It’s so easy to let the destruction your addiction has caused be a reason to carry on abusing. It can be one of the biggest stumbling blocks in recovery.

The addictive part of your mind will be telling you to drink because “the damage is already done”.

People who are struggling often tell me that their relationships can’t be fixed.

But there is a way. The most obvious way. Your friends and loved one’s just want to see you get better. By getting sober and staying sober, those relationships will be salvageable.

Me and my brother, Joe

There was a time when I thought things would never be good again between me and my family. I had caused so much sadness. I had lost so much trust. And I had burnt every bridge.

But time heals and people forgive. And there is no better way of accelerating that process than by getting sober and making up for the mistakes you have made.

It’s my amazing little sisters 27th birthday today. I made her teenage years and early 20’s hell. All the focus was on me and my issues when she must have needed support too.

Charlie didn’t have a normal 21st birthday. Her party was overshadowed by me. I had been admitted to intensive care because I’d relapsed just four months after being diagnosed with liver disease.

Me and Charlie

It wasn’t just me who lost some of the best years of my life, she did too.

Yet she has forgiven me for all of that and grown into a beautiful, kind, and wonderful woman who I am incredibly proud of.

So don’t let the mistakes you have made in the past get in the way of your future. You can make up for all of them once you are sober.

For my family, me getting sober was enough to wash away the pain I had caused.

A person’s sobriety doesn’t just affect them, it affects everyone in their life.

Thanks for reading and say safe,

Toby

3 thoughts on “Nothing is beyond repair

  1. That’s really helped me tonight reading this.
    The longer I’ve been in recovery – 3 years on 27th September – The more my children have grown distant from me. I’ve tried to really build a relationship with them but they just don’t want to know.
    I’ve made my amends and I’m finally at peace with their choices 🙏🙏

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    1. Hi Nigel,

      I’m really pleased the blog helped you in some way, but I’m so sorry to hear that your children have grown distant.

      All I can say is that time really did heal old wounds for me. Some relationships take longer than others.

      But you are doing exactly what you need to be doing and you should be so bloody proud of yourself.

      Keep going my friend

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