STAYING SOBER THIS CHRISTMAS

Christmas can be a strange and difficult time of year for those in recovery. It’s the only time of the year when it’s socially acceptable to drink in the morning, alcohol advertising is on turbo charge and every event or party is centred around booze.

There was a time in my life when I couldn’t imagine spending the festive season sober. But this year will be my 9^th sober Christmas in a row.

I used to plan Christmas day around drink. I would make sure I had enough to last the full 24 hours. To be honest, I can’t remember any of Christmas days from my early to mid-twenties.  But those days are well behind me.

For many people in recovery, the devil on the shoulder shouts loudest this time of year.

So here are my tips for keeping him at bay……..

Don’t put yourself in ANY scenarios that make you feel uncomfortable

• That doesn’t mean you can’t go to a party of family gathering – just have an exit plan in case it gets too much.

Let people know that you aren’t drinking

• Most people will be understanding and supportive. And if they’re not, they aren’t worth having in your life.

Treat it like any other day

• I love Christmas, but I try not to build up the big day in my head. It is just another day

You are nor missing out on anything!

• There is absolutely nothing to gain from drinking at Christmas. But there’s a LOT to lose! The joy you will feel when the 2^nd of January comes around, and you’re still sober, is an indescribable feeling.

Surround yourself with those who support you

• If you can, stay close to the people who support your sobriety. And stay away from those that don’t understand it.

Stick to your routine

• Not always easy at Christmas time, but so important. I have made it a tradition to go for a run on Christmas morning. It’s what I’d normally do on my day off work and the endorphins are the perfect start to an alcohol-free Christmas.

Keep busy

• If you’re off work for Christmas, fill your diary. Do whatever it takes to make sure you are busy doing things that make you feel good about yourself. Cook for friends and family, exercise, make plans for your kids, volunteer…whatever it takes.

Have a plan for if it gets too much

• Make sure you know where the support is in case you get a craving. Whether that be AA groups or specific person to talk to. The worst thing you can do is bottle up those feelings. Talk to somebody.

When I first got sober, I thought I would never be able to enjoy Christmas again. I was wrong. For me, it’s now a time for family and making up for the years I lost to alcohol addiction.

Just remember, there is absolutely nothing to be gained by drinking. Stay strong and talk to those in your supportive network.

I hope you all have a wonderful Christmas, Toby x